"We don't have to beat the shit out of anyone. We can love everyone."
– Brené Brown
We beat the shit of people because we are insecure with who we are and who we could become.
We beat the shit out of people because we fear others who look, think, speak, and express themselves differently than we do.
We beat the shit of people because we see the world as a zero-sum game, constantly in scarcity mode, worrying about what will be taken from us.
We beat the shit out of people because we have more money, bigger muscles, more education, a better job, more friends, a bigger house, more power, a fancier car, more influence, better connections, more social capital.
We beat the shit out of people because we are ignorant, unaware, uncaring, full of anger and malice and aggression.
We beat the shit out of people because we lack self-empathy, self-compassion, self-reflection, self-awareness, self-knowledge, and self-actualization.
We beat the shit out of people because it's easier than getting to know them, understanding them, listening to them, empathizing with them, validating their lived experiences, learning from them.
We beat the shit out of people because we think it's easier than loving them.
When we beat the shit out of people, we beat the shit out of ourselves too.