Words matter.
Recently, I've changed from saying "I appreciate it" to "I appreciate you" when someone has done something nice for me.
One word. One word that makes a whole lot of difference.
One word that personalizes the communication. That humanizes the exchange. That shows an intentionality to connect.
It's a microconnection. I think we underestimate the value of microconnections. The power they have to build relationships and trust and closeness.
Saying, "I appreciate you" is more vulnerable than "I appreciate it."
You're putting yourself out there more. You're taking a risk of sounding too sentimental or intimate or melodramatic.
But it's not any of those things. If you're sincere and genuine. If you truly appreciate the person for what they have done or said.
No one has said anything to me about this, and I'd be lying if I could report any measurable difference in how people respond to me.
No. It's not about that. It's about me. It's about how I feel. It's about the changes in how I interact and connect with people.
But it's not selfish. Far from it.
I'm putting out to the world – and to specific people – the vibe and energy and connection that I want us all to experience.
And I appreciate all of you for receiving that energy from me.