One of the most powerful recurring realizations I have is remembering that I'm not attached to my views.
Remembering that in any given situation or conversation I have the autonomy to respond in a manner that I choose.
Remembering that I don't have to take it personally if someone disagrees with me or the way I've expressed my perspective.
Remembering that just because someone has chosen to use aggressive language or bullying tactics or be dismissive of me and/or my views that I don't have to match their style or methods or tone.
Remembering that who I am is not the same thing as what I say, think, or do .
Remembering that my goal is not to win an argument or convince someone to change their mind but rather to offer a unique perspective for people to consider if they choose.
Remembering that there's a big difference between responding and reacting, between curiosity and expertise, between empathy and judgment, between equanimity and agitation, between love and fear.
Between self-actualization and insecurity, between confidence and arrogance, between humility and submissiveness.
Between detachment and attachment.
Yeah, sometimes I forget all that. But I try to remember it all as much as possible.
When I do, I get better results.